In order for Premium Duo to work, the other person must have their own account attached to the plan. It sounds like your wife is on your account, which is why you both are unable to listen to music whenever you want. You can simply send her an invite to your plan following these steps.
For your reference, there is more information about how Premium Duo works here.
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